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  • Blogging in Shadows 5:11 pm on February 7, 2017 Permalink  





    LGBT History Month 2017

    Some good things happening this month:

    Purple Prose reading at Swiss Cottage Library in London on 8th February: http://www.camden.gov.uk/ccm/navigation/leisure/libraries-and-online-learning-centres/swiss-cottage-library/ 

    In Manchester, the LGBT Foundation will be hosting a Bisexual series: http://lgbt.foundation/get-support/bisexual/

    And there are lots of local bisexual events across the UK: http://bicommunitynews.co.uk/category/events-listings/

    HOWEVER…

    Ther is also a lot of bisexual erasure this month, as happens during most LGBT History Months.  There are very few bisexual - specific events run by “LGBT” organisations, for whom the B is very much silent.

    AND FINALLY…

    Due to illness, there won’t be a Bi’s of Colour Meetup, but we are still here!  Check out our Twitter feed @Bisofcolour 

     
  • Blogging in Shadows 8:16 am on December 24, 2016 Permalink  



    Fatness, Race, Class and Gender.

    Content note: Swearing. And when I start swearing, you know shit’s bad.

    So which one comes first?  Are you black or fat first?  Are you LGBT+ or fat first?  These are questions that need to piss off and die immediately.  I cannot seperate myself into palatable components for your digestion.  I could draw a Venn diagram of how they all overlap, but sadly the people who ask these sort of things don’t want to learn - they want you prove yourself.  Spoiler alert: you will never be worthy to them.

    If you discuss fatphobia, but never mention how race affects how you are treated, then what the everlasting fuck are you doing?  Fat liberation is blindingly white, cisgender and heterosexual.  These are the voices who get heard, whose articles appear in popular media.  These are the people who can afford to attend Fat/Body positivity conferences and know they will receive a warm welcome.  They will never be the only one of their ethnicity in a group of fat folks.

    If you discuss fatphobia, but never mention how fat LGBT+ people (with a few Bear-shaped exceptions) are subject to punishing drives of fat hate; how poverty affects fat LGBT+ people of colour differently than their white counterparts, then take the first exit out of here, you useless cumstain.

    I am thoroughly sick of the white, able-bodied cisfemale gaze being the only thing I see in fat liberation.  I am tired of their voices as the only ones amplified. And I could happily live the rest of my life without reading another piece on fatphobia that only concentrates of American white women who are at the smaller end of the fatness scale.

    I want to read about experiences of disabled fats, LGBT+ fats who are black or brown, fat folks who are elderly and/or poor.  Because we are the ones who face multiple oppressions, who can’t afford to shop the latest fat celebrity lines (I’m looking at you, Beth Ditto) to look incredible.  We are the ones who get written out of conversations time and again, even though we have been speaking out for decades.  

    So all you gusset-tickling, wankers can just shut your mouths for one shit-stained minute.  The rest of us would like a chance to be heard.

     
  • Blogging in Shadows 11:28 pm on December 18, 2016 Permalink  



    They don’t need to kill us, when we want to kill ourselves


    They never think of me when they say LGBT.
    They spy young and thin and so, so white
    And if their vision widens to invite my body, big and brown,
    I will never be named:
    I am not one of the queer crowd.

    My human shell contains a beating bisexual heart.
    But my sound and my shape are scrubbed
    Until only a white dream remains,
    And bisexuals are left at the back of the Pride parade.
    We will never be named.

    Whose tears are these?  Whose dreams are gone?
    Are questions never asked.
    Bisexual erased right off this planet
    Gay rainbows as a mask.
    The very last thing to cross your mind
    As darkness and silence puffs out my flame:
    My identity is hated first and last;
    A terrible mark of your shame.

    Who will listen when I am gone,
    To discover an echo on the microphone?
    A smudge where a human might have sat:
    Bisexual and alone.
    My old words will form an image of me.
    Incline your ear to my remains.
    The silence is never ending now.
    Marked in stone, yet never named.

     
  • Blogging in Shadows 12:07 pm on October 31, 2016 Permalink  







    bisofcolour:

    Bi’s of Colour book, edited by Asha, Jacq and Nila

    Are you a bisexual/pansexual/fluid person of colour?
    Do you live, work or study anywhere in Europe?

    If you answered YES, then read on!

    We are making plans to write a book about the lives and experiences of bisexuals of colour in Europe.  This is part of our long-term plan to have a document that reflects us.  It will be built on the foundations of the Bi’s of Colour History Report.  We plan to have the following chapter headings, but this is just a guide.

    • Creativity and the Arts
    • Visibility and Erasure of Bi’s of Colour - where we are welcome, and where we aren’t
    • White Academics versus Activists of Colour
    • Dominant culture gaze - hypersexual, fetishes, imperialism and colonialism
    • Dating and Relationships
    • Isolation, exclusion and loneliness 
    • Health - Sexual health, Mental health, Disabilities
    • Bi’s of Colour and BAME organisations
    • Bi’s of Colour and LGBT organisations
    • Families, Carers, Acceptance and Rejection
    • Racism
    • Religion, belief and spirituality or lack of
    • Body image and fashion
    • Class
    • Ageing
    • Violence

    We are open to other headings, so if you think of something you can’t wait to express, let us know.  We are also interested in non-fiction, art, photography or things we haven’t thought of yet!  You can always contribute using a pen name if you want to be anonymous.

    All contributors will be paid - we’ll be crowdfunding, so everyone will get an equal share - the amount will depend on how much we raise and how many contributors

    If you are interested in contributing, email us at bis.of.colour@gmail.com .

    THIS IS A BIG FLIPPIN’ DEAL! 

    Please reblog widely.

     
  • Blogging in Shadows 12:11 pm on October 27, 2016 Permalink  



    I gave a talk recently about homelessness and minorities.  A summary and my slides can be seen here http://www.neurofamilymatters.co.uk/news/2016/10/25/invisibility-and-homelessness 

    I was homeless 23 years ago, but its effects have never left me.  The fear of being so vulnerable and alone as a black disabled sometimes-woman is something I’ll never be able to forget, as it was terrifying to me.  More support is needed for homeless who are LGBT , disabled, People of Colour and/or very young or old.  However much of the homeless initiatives I’ve seen tend to concentrate on straight white men.  Things need to be so much better.

    Also included in the link above is my partial zine on how to safely run away if you’re an adult.  You can buy the complete zine on Etsy https://www.etsy.com/uk/listing/256116258/get-lost-a-guide-to-running-away-for?ref=shop_home_active_3 

     
  • Blogging in Shadows 12:02 pm on October 27, 2016 Permalink  

    Asexual Awareness Week 2016:  Bi Aces of Color 

    biwoc:

    Happy Asexual Awareness Week!  Let’s build awareness and support our Biromantic, Biaromantic, and BiDemisexual Ace-Spectrum community members of Color. #BiAce

    Biromantic = Capacity to form emotional and romantic attractions to more than 1 gender or agender people, no sexual attraction.  

    Biaromantic = Capacity to form emotional attractions to more than 1 gender or agender people, no romantic or sexual attraction.

    BiDemisexual
    =  Capacity to form sexual attractions to more than 1 gender or agender people with whom they have an emotional bond. Most demisexuals rarely feel sexual attraction compared to the general population, and some have little to no interest in sexual activity. For more info visit here.

    Bi Asexuals of Color seeking more community support and resources can reach out to:

    *Note: BIWOC online support groups are open to people who live outside of Boston.

     
  • Blogging in Shadows 12:02 pm on October 27, 2016 Permalink  

    Asexual Awareness Week 2016:  Bi Aces of Color 

    biwoc:

    Happy Asexual Awareness Week!  Let’s build awareness and support our Biromantic, Biaromantic, and BiDemisexual Ace-Spectrum community members of Color. #BiAce

    Biromantic = Capacity to form emotional and romantic attractions to more than 1 gender or agender people, no sexual attraction.  

    Biaromantic = Capacity to form emotional attractions to more than 1 gender or agender people, no romantic or sexual attraction.

    BiDemisexual
    =  Capacity to form sexual attractions to more than 1 gender or agender people with whom they have an emotional bond. Most demisexuals rarely feel sexual attraction compared to the general population, and some have little to no interest in sexual activity. For more info visit here.

    Bi Asexuals of Color seeking more community support and resources can reach out to:

    *Note: BIWOC online support groups are open to people who live outside of Boston.

     
  • Blogging in Shadows 9:34 am on October 25, 2016 Permalink  



    Welcome to black history month!
    Here’s a diagram of a slave ship.
    Here’s a pic of Martin Luther King.
    Here’s exactly where you fit.

    Do Black Britons have a history?
    Do we even have a past?
    Where we came from isn’t a mystery;
    We’ve been here since Roman soldiers with skin so dark.

    You’ll see us if you care to look
    On stained glass in cathedral windows.
    So why’s UK Black History Month a US event?
    Why’s history a white washed show?

    We have poets and composers,
    Leaders of the TUC & politicians.
    We fought in world wars, and we fought for peace -
    You’d know that if you’d care to listen.

    Our achievements aren’t only in the past,
    We make history every day.
    So don’t ignore Black Britons
    This October, hear what we have to say.

     
  • Blogging in Shadows 9:28 am on October 25, 2016 Permalink  

    For Pansexuals and Queer Folks Who Practice Biphobia:

    biwoc:

    FOR PANSEXUALS AND QUEER FOLKS WHO PRACTICE BIPHOBIA
    By Fey    @elixhermagazine

    This is not a feel good piece to soothe your journey in asserting your sexual orientation. This is about me being fed up with your biphobic bullshit. You’ve been warned.

    Don’t come into bisexual spaces demanding that we stop calling ourselves “bisexual.” It’s beyond rude and offensive. It’s shitty behavior.

    I don’t want to hear that you think the word “bisexual” is nasty, too “sexual,” transphobic, constricting, confining, or limiting. Being exposed to your venomous biphobic words triggers my anxiety. I cry and feel scared for my emotional and physical safety. You ain’t no friend of mine! I’m not safe around you!

    I don’t want to hear about how you think all bisexuals only want to date cis women and men. I don’t appreciate you erasing me — a gender non-binary androgyne person who’s on the trans spectrum. You act like trans folks ain’t bisexual? You act like bisexuals can’t have self-love nor love trans folks. You act like all bisexuals are cisgender. Nah!

    I find your insensitive, self-centered need to express your hate for my identity, my humanity and my bi kin neglectful, emotionally abusive, and obviously biphobic.

    Don’t come into my bisexual safe space (that welcomes pan, queer, fluid, unlabeled folks) and make demands for me to change my personal and community label for your selfish needs.

    You label yourself “queer” and you blame me if I ask you if you are a LesbianQueer or Bi/Pan/FluidQueer. Do you mean GenderQueer? The word “queer” is vague, open-ended, limitless by nature, so be aware of that. Don’t be acting all surprised and shit when people don’t know what is your personal definition of “queer.” Why does it matter? Cause if you are LesbianQueer, the last thing I need is to share my deets about having sex with a cis man and for you to look all grossed about it.

    You identify as pansexual, great! Rely on a definition that doesn’t use bisexuality as a comparison.

    (Tears and “well-meaning” apologies aren’t wanted. Just change your behavior. Process your pansexuality in pansexual community spaces.)

    Fey identifies as Black Bisexual Androgyne and uses they/them and she/her pronouns.

    Its a real shame that I have only met 1 pansexual person who DIDN’T define their orientation by being biphobic.  Do better, folks!

     
  • Blogging in Shadows 1:14 pm on October 7, 2016 Permalink  



    bisofcolour:

    Another clip from the great Bi Visibility Day even in Leicester, on the birth of Bi’s of Colour.

     
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