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  • Blogging in Shadows 9:08 pm on June 26, 2017 Permalink  

    The B in LGBT+ doesn’t stand for Blank.  Yet so many times I see events big and small, who have the acronym LGBT, but with zero bisexual input.

    “We don’t ask our guests/panelists/speakers sexual orientation,” is something that’s only ever said in response to questions about the lack of bi representation.

    “No bisexuals approached us,” is only said when all the letters except B are represented at events.

    I can’t imagine a world where someone would run a Pride event, and say “Sorry, no gay groups contacted us, so there won't be any marching in the parade.  Yet this is exactly what London Pride has done (2 years after they let the hate-group, UKIP march).

    Pride used to be something that excited me, but it hass joined the long list of places that are racist and biphobic - places I don’t want anything to do with.  And as an isolated alienated person, that just stinks.

  • Blogging in Shadows 11:30 am on June 23, 2017 Permalink  

    Fat people with visible scars of disfigurements

    Fat people who survived abuse/violence & have mental/internal scars

    Fat women/femmes who don’t wear, or can’t access make up

    Fat women/femmes who are bald or balding

    Fat women/femmes who aren’t hourglass or pear shaped

    Fat people who are older

    Fat people who can’t afford or can’t access the latest fashions

    Fat people who are super-fat/super-sized

    Fat people who are genderqueer or nonbinary

    Fat people of colour who live outside of North America

    Fat people who are disabled

    Fat people with multiple oppressions

    Fat liberation is for you too.  You will probably never see yourself reflected in anything, mainstream or alternative.  You will probably feel let down by body positivity and fat positivity.  But you count.  You matter.

  • Blogging in Shadows 11:09 am on June 23, 2017 Permalink  

    You don’t have to take crap off of people just b/c they say they are “concerned”. It’s ok to be fat. 


    None of these concerned strangers is ever concerned about the mental health implications of being constantly subjected to sigma, so excuse me if I don’t believe in your fake concern.

  • Blogging in Shadows 5:36 pm on June 22, 2017 Permalink  

    Tattoo reads, “When words become inadequate, I shall be content with silence”.

    There are words waiting: a poem

    My fingers, pink side up

    Hold stories made of gestures, 

    Signs and twirls.

    The whorls 

    Of each fingerprint start a chapter, a Sign Language tale.

    Violence made me mute when I was younger;

    It still returns as an adult - the silence

    I surrender

    To a fractured part inside my soul.

    Another name, another author

    Of my life takes hold.

    And when I stare at my palms, the lines,

    So fractured, divides

    Into several paths, many lives

    I have carried:

    A library of personalities tallied.

    My fingers move, my body remembers

    Trees towering above me

    And a book burning

    As another part of me rises from the embers.

  • Blogging in Shadows 2:58 pm on June 22, 2017 Permalink  

    A little blackout poetry on being a recovering alcoholic, knowing how damaging booze is to me, but still wanting to drink.

  • Blogging in Shadows 4:01 pm on June 21, 2017 Permalink  


    For those who need screen readers, the poster reads: 

    Still unheard Out There

    Making Rainbows through the prism of LGBTQI+ diversity

    Friday 30th June pm, LVSC, 200a Pentonville Road, London N1 9JP

    An event about under-represented LGBT voices.  The stories and priorities of intersex, bisexual, pansexual and intersectional LGBTQI+ people in London.  WWE have a small budget for speakers.

    Email HEARcampains@reap.org.uk for information and to book your place.

    This will be a free event!

  • Blogging in Shadows 10:45 am on June 20, 2017 Permalink  


    The B’is of Colour History Report has been reprinted as a full-colour A5 booklet, just in time for Pride season!

    If you would like some free copies for your stall at Pride or any other event that needs bisexual visibility, email us at bis.of.colour@gmail.com and we can send some out to you.  We have a limited budget, so we can only send a small amount outside the United Kingdom (overseas postage is wicked-expensive), but give us an email and we will try to sort something out.

  • Blogging in Shadows 9:16 am on June 16, 2017 Permalink  

    I’m not vegan but this post is.  I have a food sensitivity to lactose (milk-based food) and I’m also diabetic.  When my partner became vegetarian, it made sense to me for us both to be vegan, instead of cooking two seperate dishes at mealtimes.  I’m no longer vegan, but the things I learned during that time have stayed with me.  I have an appreciation of vegetables that I used to hate before; I grew to love tofu more than anything (except peanut butter).  I also learned how to make the most of what I have in the cupboard instead of buying (often expensive) vegan substitutes.  I still make homemade chocolate, nut milks, vegan chicken nuggets & ice cream, even though I stopped identifying as vegan years ago.

    One of the things that made me stop being vegan was the HUGE RACISM I experienced in white vegan spaces.  A good primer on this is here https://mediadiversified.org/2015/12/16/veganism-has-a-serious-race-problem/ Trigger Warning: disturbing image near the start.

    Sadly, the few black vegans I encountered were for the most part deeply problematic too - often so Afrocentric that anything & anyone who didn't come straight from a Anhk-Right, Hotep conference was shunned.  That included my black, british, bisexual backside.

    It seems that (as per bloody usual) black vegans in the US have a more welcoming setup. http://www.blackvegansrock.com/blog/

    So the main point of this post: I was on a hunt for some new recipes when I realised there are some WEIRD ASS people making vegan cooking vids online. 

    There’s the swearing Grandma https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=32oIb2B1WyA

    The weird puppet guy https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=ieyzHZdFmyg

    The death metal chef https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=bX3swY3r81c

    So, yeah.  If vegans could stop being so git-faced for a while, that would be great for everyone. And the planet.


  • Blogging in Shadows 5:31 pm on June 10, 2017 Permalink  

    Touch-starved, but don’t touch me.

    Trigger Warning: Sexual abuse

    Consent means a lot to me; as a survivor of abuse and violence, there have been far too many times in my life when I was touched without my permission.  Touching used to be the start - invasive fingers and sexual organs being forced on me often followed next.  Abusive people look like ordinary folks, because they are.  There are few abusers who look like monsters from horror stories - they are people who live next door, who stand beside you at the bus stop, and who live with you under the same roof.

    I have had no voice in the past.  Selective Mutism and fear of additional punishment usually meant I knew I could never say “No,” and even if I did try to stop them, my actions and my pleas were ignored.

    I have a voice now.  When an adult comes toward me with arms wide open, hands raised, my mind, fractured and scarred from twenty years of abuse, doesn’t think ‘hug’.  My mind thinks ‘DANGER’.  I am touch starved, but it doesn't mean I want people touching me without permission.  I want to be asked, “Would you like a hug?” Or “May I hug you?”  And I want my answer to be respected.  For there is a small part of me - a frightened child who takes over when I am distressed.  I freeze, my voice changes, and I get prepared to strike back.  All of that changes if my consent is asked for first.  Yet it seems impossible for many people to understand that.  

    Here in the U.K, people are usually quite reserved.  But I’ve noticed that when it comes to those perceived as women, especially if black, we don’t get to have a say in how we are touched.  We are presumed to be open and here for everyone’s use, but never for our own.  This needs to change right now.  So the next time you want to express affection or joy toward another person, ASK THEM FIRST.  Consent isn’t just about sex.  Consent before embracing, bear hugging or picking someone up and swinging them around with joy, may seem needlessly polite to you.  But that’s the thing - it isn’t just about you.  Consider the other person who may have emotional/mental/physical issues that make it a bad idea.  Show you can be a good friend to them.  Ask them first.

  • Blogging in Shadows 8:43 am on June 10, 2017 Permalink  

    Black Panther Teaser Trailer:


    Black people front & centre in a science fiction movie?  I’ll have some of that!

    This reaction vid https://youtu.be/QN-WCHacRgI is pretty much my reaction too.  His best comment, “It’s like Africa in space!” 

    But seriously, representation matters!  Whether in small everyday things or in big flashy stuff that everyone except you gets to fully enjoy.  Sci-fi and fantasy has the tendency to be very, very white - whether the media or the fandom.  It’s easy to feel alienated when I go to conventions and am the only black person in the room.  The usual state of black people in scifi is like this: http://j-applebee.tumblr.com/post/141781152918/i-wrote-the-poem-below-for-mancunicon-the-uk

    This trailer makes me happy.  And it makes me especially happy that it features black people and it’s NOT IN AMERICA.  I get thoroughly sick that if I ever see Black people in anything visual, it’s always in the U.S.  

    *screams some more*

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