Amy André is a bi woman married to a lesbian. When walking together one day, near their home in San Francisco, a man in a pick-up truck shouted at them as he drove by: “Lesbians!”
“I’ll take it!” was André‘s reply. “Because even though I’m not a lesbian, it’s certainly no insult to be mistaken for one, especially if the mistake is based on my awesome hair style!”
André is the co-author of Bisexual Health, published by the National Gay & Lesbian Task Force, and is an in-demand speaker on bisexual and overall LGBT issues. She holds a masters in Sexuality Studies and an MBA from UC Berkeley.
And she has short hair. Was that the marker then for this truck driver? Short hair marks a woman as lesbian? André and her spouse, Dr. Kami Chisholm, ponder this, both seriously and humorously, as they walk on: “Considering the fact that studies show that twice as many women identify as bisexual than identify as lesbian (yes, bi women outnumber lesbians two to one), the odds were just higher anyway that, if he thinks I’m not straight, then I’m probably bi. So, what could it be that made him assume we were both lesbians?”
What Does a Bisexual Look Like? by Amy Andre, filed at the Bilerico Project, 27.Sep.11.
Amy André is also the author of Married, Like as in Married Married for LGBT | POV.
Photo credit: Marlo Gayle
