On 13th September 2017 I went to the City of London (“The City” means the financial bit) for a Bisexual Role Models day organised by Stonewall. 
I’d heard of previous LGBT Role Models days and a colleague (one day I’ll spell “colleague” without correction) recommended it highly. Work paid, which I was pleasantly surprised by.
I’m sceptical of anything involving “leadership” and it worked well for me that we talked about role models as visible rather than perfect folks. We had a mix of industries represented, with two bi folks being from the same large company and not previously being aware of one another.
This became rather a theme for me, that most people in the room had never been in a room with more than one or two other bisexuals. I wondered why. Had they looked for bi events, gatherings and the like and not found them, didn’t think to look because why look for something you don’t think exists, or did they not feel bi gatherings were for them? That I still don’t know.
We spent some time thinking about who our personal role models are, and then some problem solving about how we might bring ourselves to more visibility at work.
I thought, as often isolated bi people within our workplaces, that folks that day might have wanted to keep in touch. I asked Stonewall to pass on a message from me, and when nobody who got back to me expressed a preference I set up a Slack channel. Today, having been over a year with not a single message from anyone on the bi role models day apart from a few OKs to be added to a channel, I’ll close it down. I feel sad to lose the opportunity for connection for myself and for other bi folks who are far more isolated than me.
I’m still me and still being bi at work with larger or smaller visibility and sometimes activism has a longer timeframe or different rhythms to the one I’m drawn to dance to.
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