If you ask 50 gay men what being gay means to them, you’ll get 50 different answers. This then shows the diversity of the community, the way that ‘being gay’ is a personal pride, et cetera.
If you ask 50 bisexuals what being bisexual means to them, you’ll get 50 answers too. But apparently that’s because bisexuality is confusing and no-one agrees what it means. What’s going on here?
We’re being sold a narrative. “Bisexuals are confused”, “Bisexuals can’t make up their minds.”
If you asked 50 people what biochemistry is then the consensus will be ‘some sort of cross between biology and chemistry’.
Ask them what a cat is and the majority won’t say “a small carnivorous mammal domesticated and kept as a pet”, because that’d sound glib. Instead they’ll each talk about what a cat is to them. Companion, menace, cuteness, kitten, ratcatcher, captioned on the internet.
That doesn’t mean no-one agrees what the word “cat” means. They think it’s obvious what it means, and skip straight to the interpretation.
The same thing goes for identities. We don’t repeat the dictionary definition back because we assume the person asking is familiar with that.
Bisexuals aren’t confused, except as to why you’re asking…
