{"id":192,"date":"2012-12-08T11:50:00","date_gmt":"2012-12-08T11:50:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.bimedia.org\/blogs\/?guid=52932982f9d6f65a94c0774c600d607c"},"modified":"2012-12-08T11:50:25","modified_gmt":"2012-12-08T11:50:25","slug":"bi-the-way","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/bimedia.org\/blogs\/2012\/12\/bi-the-way\/","title":{"rendered":"Bi The Way…"},"content":{"rendered":"
So. As promised.<\/span><\/div>\n
THE BI-BOMB.<\/span>
I have so much love for you guys I am writing this in my room, wearing sunglasses because my brain has decided light is the ULTIMATE ENEMY.<\/span>

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How\/when should be bi-bomb be dropped?<\/span>
If someone drops the bi-bomb on you – what do you do?!<\/span>
Let us find out on a magical mystery journey of the web and my brain <3<\/span>

<\/span>Scenario 1: The romantic\/sexual partner<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n
You’ve started developing something of a huge crush on someone and they appear to feel the same way\/you’ve started a relationship with someone. Happyhappyhappy.<\/span><\/div>\n
But they don’t know you’re bi.<\/span><\/div>\n

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You’d like to tell them, but you fear that they may run for the hills shouting “ARGH MONSTER!” for several reasons (many of which were brought up in blog post 1).<\/span><\/div>\n

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It’s worth starting with saying BE CALM. They like you for you (probably), so this is really no different than you telling them that you secretly love John Barrowman\/T.a.T.u\/ABBA (and that may even give them a hint…).<\/span><\/div>\n


<\/span>I like to test the waters with a general “Ooh, that person is attractive\/fit\/appropriate word” on the TV.<\/span>
Or casually drop in the “My ex-boy\/girlfriend…” Though that one does assume you’re feeling that you can talk about exes\/past crushes…<\/span>

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<\/span>These things don’t always go the way you planned – I’ve had a guy who assumed that it was then cool to ask if there was any chance of me, him and my best friend (no thanks), and a girl who said she couldn’t handle that I’d been with guys.<\/span>
But if something like that happens? Sweetie, they aren’t worth your time. The right person (or people) will love you for YOU \ud83d\ude42<\/span>

<\/span>Scenario 2: The Parents<\/span>
Probably not like I did.<\/span>
Don’t hide the sex issue of Diva down the side of your bed and then go back to uni without it.<\/span>
Or like most of my friends did – in some level intoxicated.<\/span>
In fact, I don’t think I’ve ever met someone that came out to their parents in a beautiful and eloquent manner, gay\/lesbian or bi…<\/span>
If you get the chance to do it in your own time, then that’s awesome, if you’re put on the spot it’s terrifying…I think the best advice I can give is to be honest.<\/span>
They love you, but it might be really hard for them to understand\/come to terms with…just know that there is support out there for you if they take a while to come round <3<\/span>
I’m ridiculously lucky in that my parents and my family that know have been amazing.<\/span>

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<\/span>Scenario 3: I’m not bi, someone has just told me they are and I don’t know how to react…<\/span>
Don’t be afraid to ask questions…if they feel the time has come to tell you, then they want you to know.<\/span>
Don’t assume you’ve been told because the person is BLINDLY IN LOVE WITH YOU (though, there is a chance).<\/span>
Don’t feel like you have to do anything differently really. They haven’t joined a cult\/started believing in the Flying Spaghetti Monster\/got some form of infectious disease.<\/span>

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<\/span>Reet, well that will be all for now (should probably be writing my essay…)
For the next post, if anyone would like to comment\/tweet me questions (about bisexuality, pansexuality, my ideas, things they’ve heard), I shall do my best to answer them!
Excellent.
Much cheesy love!<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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