When a very brief exchange reminds you why you don’t miss the white middle class bicon world that much any more. (by extension all the other white and middlecass ‘alt’ worlds: lgbtq, kink, geek etc etc)<\/p>\n
so so much emotional labour of explaining racism (and you know you’ve got problems if IM explaining classism too coz i am one of the people who gets it) of being expected to explain\/educate, because an ‘activist’. (activist, not masochist doormat\/your personal\/community resource)<\/p>\n
I had to cut off completely from a scene that I’d worked\/loved\/fucked\/found myself in over ten years. <\/p>\n
It became no longer possible to be in that scene without being shut down\/told off for being ‘unreasonable’ \/angry or being a version of me that fanned my internalised racism.<\/p>\n
But there are so few spaces which are not shit for bi people. Basically are there any that aren’t organised primarily by bi people?<\/p>\n
That’s part of why I stayed so long, and it was a huge huge loss stepping away.<\/p>\n
That’s why bi’s of colour, which Jacq Applebee and I founded, has been a fucking lifeline.<\/p>\n