{"id":3611,"date":"2016-10-25T09:28:18","date_gmt":"2016-10-25T08:28:18","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/j-applebee.tumblr.com\/post\/152286167293"},"modified":"2016-10-25T09:28:18","modified_gmt":"2016-10-25T08:28:18","slug":"for-pansexuals-and-queer-folks-who-practice-biphobia","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/bimedia.org\/blogs\/2016\/10\/for-pansexuals-and-queer-folks-who-practice-biphobia\/","title":{"rendered":"For Pansexuals and Queer Folks Who Practice Biphobia"},"content":{"rendered":"

For Pansexuals and Queer Folks Who Practice Biphobia<\/a>: <\/p>\n

biwoc<\/a>:<\/p>\n

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FOR PANSEXUALS AND QUEER FOLKS WHO PRACTICE BIPHOBIA
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By Fey \u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n

@elixhermagazine<\/a>\u200b<\/i><\/p>\n

This is not a feel good piece to soothe your journey in asserting your sexual orientation. This is about me being fed up with your biphobic bullshit. You\u2019ve been warned.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t come into bisexual spaces demanding that we stop calling ourselves \u201cbisexual.\u201d It\u2019s beyond rude and offensive. It\u2019s shitty behavior.<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t want to hear that you think the word \u201cbisexual\u201d is nasty, too \u201csexual,\u201d transphobic, constricting, confining, or limiting. Being exposed to your venomous biphobic words triggers my anxiety. I cry and feel scared for my emotional and physical safety. You ain\u2019t no friend of mine! I\u2019m not safe around you!<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t want to hear about how you think all bisexuals only want to date cis women and men. I don\u2019t appreciate you erasing me \u2014 a gender non-binary androgyne person who\u2019s on the trans spectrum. You act like trans folks ain\u2019t bisexual? You act like bisexuals can\u2019t have self-love nor love trans folks. You act like all bisexuals are cisgender. Nah!<\/p>\n

I find your insensitive, self-centered need to express your hate for my identity, my humanity and my bi kin neglectful, emotionally abusive, and obviously biphobic.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t come into my bisexual safe space (that welcomes pan, queer, fluid, unlabeled folks) and make demands for me to change my personal and community label for your selfish needs.<\/p>\n

You label yourself \u201cqueer\u201d and you blame me if I ask you if you are a LesbianQueer or Bi\/Pan\/FluidQueer. Do you mean GenderQueer? The word \u201cqueer\u201d is vague, open-ended, limitless by nature, so be aware of that. Don\u2019t be acting all surprised and shit when people don\u2019t know what is your personal definition of \u201cqueer.\u201d Why does it matter? Cause if you are LesbianQueer, the last thing I need is to share my deets about having sex with a cis man and for you to look all grossed about it.<\/p>\n

You identify as pansexual, great! Rely on a definition that doesn\u2019t use bisexuality as a comparison.<\/p>\n

(Tears and \u201cwell-meaning\u201d apologies aren\u2019t wanted. Just change your behavior. Process your pansexuality in pansexual community spaces.)<\/p>\n

Fey identifies as Black Bisexual Androgyne and uses they\/them and she\/her pronouns.<\/b><\/i><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Its a real shame that I have only met 1 pansexual person who DIDN\u2019T define their orientation by being biphobic. \u00a0Do better, folks!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

For Pansexuals and Queer Folks Who Practice Biphobia<\/a>: <\/p>\n

biwoc<\/a>:<\/p>\n

\n

<\/p>\n

FOR PANSEXUALS AND QUEER FOLKS WHO PRACTICE BIPHOBIA
\n<\/b>
By Fey   <\/p>\n

@elixhermagazine<\/a>​<\/i><\/p>\n

This is not a feel good piece to soothe your journey in asserting your sexual orientation. This is about me being fed up with your biphobic bullshit. You’ve been warned.<\/p>\n

Don’t come into bisexual spaces demanding that we stop calling ourselves “bisexual.” It’s beyond rude and offensive. It’s shitty behavior.<\/p>\n

I don’t want to hear that you think the word “bisexual” is nasty, too “sexual,” transphobic, constricting, confining, or limiting. Being exposed to your venomous biphobic words triggers my anxiety. I cry and feel scared for my emotional and physical safety. You ain’t no friend of mine! I’m not safe around you!<\/p>\n

I don’t want to hear about how you think all bisexuals only want to date cis women and men. I don’t appreciate you erasing me — a gender non-binary androgyne person who’s on the trans spectrum. You act like trans folks ain’t bisexual? You act like bisexuals can’t have self-love nor love trans folks. You act like all bisexuals are cisgender. Nah!<\/p>\n

I find your insensitive, self-centered need to express your hate for my identity, my humanity and my bi kin neglectful, emotionally abusive, and obviously biphobic.<\/p>\n

Don’t come into my bisexual safe space (that welcomes pan, queer, fluid, unlabeled folks) and make demands for me to change my personal and community label for your selfish needs.<\/p>\n

You label yourself “queer” and you blame me if I ask you if you are a LesbianQueer or Bi\/Pan\/FluidQueer. Do you mean GenderQueer? The word “queer” is vague, open-ended, limitless by nature, so be aware of that. Don’t be acting all surprised and shit when people don’t know what is your personal definition of “queer.” Why does it matter? Cause if you are LesbianQueer, the last thing I need is to share my deets about having sex with a cis man and for you to look all grossed about it.<\/p>\n

You identify as pansexual, great! Rely on a definition that doesn’t use bisexuality as a comparison.<\/p>\n

(Tears and “well-meaning” apologies aren’t wanted. Just change your behavior. Process your pansexuality in pansexual community spaces.)<\/p>\n

Fey identifies as Black Bisexual Androgyne and uses they\/them and she\/her pronouns.<\/b><\/i><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Its a real shame that I have only met 1 pansexual person who DIDN’T define their orientation by being biphobic.  Do better, folks!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":11,"featured_media":1211,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-3611","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/bimedia.org\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3611","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/bimedia.org\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/bimedia.org\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bimedia.org\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/11"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bimedia.org\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3611"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/bimedia.org\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3611\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3612,"href":"https:\/\/bimedia.org\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3611\/revisions\/3612"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bimedia.org\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1211"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/bimedia.org\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3611"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bimedia.org\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3611"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bimedia.org\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3611"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}