{"id":371,"date":"2012-12-16T20:26:00","date_gmt":"2012-12-16T20:26:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/bimedia.org\/blogs\/?guid=43ff400884787006f1710b9650cf7cca"},"modified":"2012-12-16T20:31:35","modified_gmt":"2012-12-16T20:31:35","slug":"answering-your-queeries-without-the-aid-of-bifocals-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/bimedia.org\/blogs\/2012\/12\/answering-your-queeries-without-the-aid-of-bifocals-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Answering your queeries, without the aid of Bifocals."},"content":{"rendered":"

Right, my lovelies.<\/span>
You asked, I will attempt to answer. Bi-eautiful.<\/span>
Some serious, some not so serious, some Pokemon-related.<\/span>

<\/span>
<\/span>1. How do you feel about the amount of discrimination (or rather ‘judgement’) bisexuals tend to receive from the L\/G community and what do you think could be done in order to diminish this to some effect?<\/span>
It’s a sore point for a lot of bisexuals, myself included…It gets a bit like “I HAVE SO MANY FEELINGS! And I thought you’d understand, but apparently I’m just a promiscuous schlag?”<\/span><\/p>\n

Or you feel like you are trusted less\/viewed in a different light…<\/span>
Though that is veryvery generalising. Many of my G\/L friendypops are very much understanding of my processes, but it’s true of many strangers. You almost feel like you can’t say you’re bi to anyone – the acceptance you thought you had can be taken away very quickly.<\/span>
I guess, from my point of view, it’s a fear of the unknown. The more we get ourselves out there (as it were…) then the better, and making it easier to ask questions without other people fearing they’ll offend you.<\/span>
BE PROUD \ud83d\ude42 you are bi-eautiful, you have nothing to hide away and nothing to be ashamed of.<\/span>
We’re already segregated, can we please not further segregate the segregation?<\/span>
(Said too many seg- words. Now thinking of segments of Chocolate Orange. Om.) <\/span>

<\/span>
<\/span>2. Why do you think ‘pansexuality’ is such a neglected term?<\/span>
I think because people aren’t really aware of it or sure what it means. I shall come on to this next. <\/span>
And it’s an awkward misnomer in that it does make it sound like you REALLY REALLY LIKE PANS. <\/span>
I have nothing against pans per se, but I really don’t like it when people think I want to violate their utensils.  That’s probably why I refrain to use it to describe myself to the wider public – most people won’t ask out of fear if they don’t know what it means, and to explain it every time I say it to someone seems a bit condescending\/patronising to the person that I’m talking to…<\/span>

<\/span>
<\/span>3. What is the difference between bisexuality and pansexuality?<\/span>
*flexes biceps, and cracks knuckles in anticipation of brain ramble*<\/span>
Hokay. In the brain of Squirtles, bisexuality assumes gender binary, and pansexuality does not. Pansexuality is a fan of continuums and other definitions of gender, whereas I see bisexuality as more of a MEN OR WOMEN type of thing, something to do with the bi- prefix I suppose. But, this is only my opinion etcetc.<\/span>
Also related to this – I also label myself pan because when I’m attracted to someone I’m genderblind – I don’t really take note of gender, I get attracted to a person, and then OH HEY they are male\/female\/*insert gender identity here).<\/span>
*note – these opinions are mine, and probably not general \ud83d\ude42 – still confused about my brain? Just ask \ud83d\ude42 <\/span>

<\/span>
<\/span>4. How do you make the people you like of the opposite sex not treat you as a “gay best friend”?<\/span>
I personally have a similar issue.<\/span>

<\/span>Dear males I am attracted to,<\/span>
Stop treating me as the oracle to how to woo your ladies, and remember I am one such lady, and perhaps I would like it if you view me in the woo-ing sense.<\/span>
Kthnxbai.<\/span>

<\/span>I guess it comes down the the subtle (or not so subtle\/socially HAWKWARD) flirtations and signals you give off to the person at the time… <\/span><\/div>\n
In saying that – if anyone has any useful tips, please feel free to share them \ud83d\ude00<\/span>

<\/span>
<\/span>5. When you like someone of one gender\/sex and when you like someone of another does it feel different? Like is it a different sort of love\/attraction\/do you feel the relationship is different depending on sex\/gender?<\/span>
 I tend to be a bit more romantically but not necessarily sexually attracted when it comes to men that I am attracted to, but other than that it\u2019s pretty much the same\u2026I\u2019m still a stroke the persons\u2019 cheek\/hair, look in their eyes and feel like a warm chocolate fudge sauce.<\/span>
 Personally, I don\u2019t feel that my relationships are any different because the person is a certain gender, though they\u2019re all different in some respects in terms of the love and attraction I feel because they\u2019re all different people (if that makes any sense at all outside of my head\u2026)<\/span>

<\/span>
<\/span>6. How many bi puns do you have left?<\/span>
Many. The possibilities are endless. Might have to use my binoculars like.<\/span>
There are so many words with bi- as a prefix, and so many phrases with “by” in, I’m sure I can fit them all in somewhere (oo-er).<\/span>
To make and understand puns, one must have an intense level of awesomeness and intellect. That is why I believe many bisexuals love a good pun.<\/span>

<\/span>There was the person who sent ten different puns to friends, with the hope that at least one of the puns would make them laugh. No pun in ten did. <\/span>

<\/span>
<\/span>7. Squirtle, Charmander or Bulbasaur?<\/span>
This depends if we’re talking tactics or cuteness.<\/span>
I am rather a fan of my namesake. Squirtle is amazing, and probably the cutest, and the most useful of the unevolved forms, but lets face it…there’s something about Charizard that makes me want a Charmander….<\/span><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Right, my lovelies.<\/span>
You asked, I will attempt to answer. Bi-eautiful.<\/span>
Some serious, some not so serious, some Pokemon-related.<\/span>

<\/span>
<\/span>1. How do you feel about the amount of discrimination (or rather ‘judgement’) bisexuals tend to receive from the L\/G community and what do you think could be done in order to diminish this to some effect?<\/span>
It’s a sore point for a lot of bisexuals, myself included…It gets a bit like “I HAVE SO MANY FEELINGS! And I thought you’d understand, but apparently I’m just a promiscuous schlag?”<\/span><\/p>\n

\nOr you feel like you are trusted less\/viewed in a different light…<\/span>
Though that is veryvery generalising. Many of my G\/L friendypops are very much understanding of my processes, but it’s true of many strangers. You almost feel like you can’t say you’re bi to anyone – the acceptance you thought you had can be taken away very quickly.<\/span>
I guess, from my point of view, it’s a fear of the unknown. The more we get ourselves out there (as it were…) then the better, and making it easier to ask questions without other people fearing they’ll offend you.<\/span>
BE PROUD \ud83d\ude42 you are bi-eautiful, you have nothing to hide away and nothing to be ashamed of.<\/span>
We’re already segregated, can we please not further segregate the segregation?<\/span>
(Said too many seg- words. Now thinking of segments of Chocolate Orange. Om.) <\/span>

<\/span>
<\/span>2. Why do you think ‘pansexuality’ is such a neglected term?<\/span>
I think because people aren’t really aware of it or sure what it means. I shall come on to this next. <\/span>
And it’s an awkward misnomer in that it does make it sound like you REALLY REALLY LIKE PANS. <\/span>
I have nothing against pans per se, but I really don’t like it when people think I want to violate their utensils.  That’s probably why I refrain to use it to describe myself to the wider public – most people won’t ask out of fear if they don’t know what it means, and to explain it every time I say it to someone seems a bit condescending\/patronising to the person that I’m talking to…<\/span>

<\/span>
<\/span>3. What is the difference between bisexuality and pansexuality?<\/span>
*flexes biceps, and cracks knuckles in anticipation of brain ramble*<\/span>
Hokay. In the brain of Squirtles, bisexuality assumes gender binary, and pansexuality does not. Pansexuality is a fan of continuums and other definitions of gender, whereas I see bisexuality as more of a MEN OR WOMEN type of thing, something to do with the bi- prefix I suppose. But, this is only my opinion etcetc.<\/span>
Also related to this – I also label myself pan because when I’m attracted to someone I’m genderblind – I don’t really take note of gender, I get attracted to a person, and then OH HEY they are male\/female\/*insert gender identity here).<\/span>
*note – these opinions are mine, and probably not general \ud83d\ude42 – still confused about my brain? Just ask \ud83d\ude42 <\/span>

<\/span>
<\/span>4. How do you make the people you like of the opposite sex not treat you as a “gay best friend”?<\/span>
I personally have a similar issue.<\/span>

<\/span>Dear males I am attracted to,<\/span>
Stop treating me as the oracle to how to woo your ladies, and remember I am one such lady, and perhaps I would like it if you view me in the woo-ing sense.<\/span>
Kthnxbai.<\/span>

<\/span>I guess it comes down the the subtle (or not so subtle\/socially HAWKWARD) flirtations and signals you give off to the person at the time… <\/span>\n<\/div>\n
\nIn saying that – if anyone has any useful tips, please feel free to share them \ud83d\ude00<\/span>

<\/span>
<\/span>5. When you like someone of one gender\/sex and when you like someone of another does it feel different? Like is it a different sort of love\/attraction\/do you feel the relationship is different depending on sex\/gender?<\/span>
 I tend to be a bit more romantically but not necessarily sexually attracted when it comes to men that I am attracted to, but other than that it’s pretty much the same…I’m still a stroke the persons’ cheek\/hair, look in their eyes and feel like a warm chocolate fudge sauce.<\/span>
 Personally, I don’t feel that my relationships are any different because the person is a certain gender, though they’re all different in some respects in terms of the love and attraction I feel because they’re all different people (if that makes any sense at all outside of my head…)<\/span>

<\/span>
<\/span>6. How many bi puns do you have left?<\/span>
Many. The possibilities are endless. Might have to use my binoculars like.<\/span>
There are so many words with bi- as a prefix, and so many phrases with “by” in, I’m sure I can fit them all in somewhere (oo-er).<\/span>
To make and understand puns, one must have an intense level of awesomeness and intellect. That is why I believe many bisexuals love a good pun.<\/span>

<\/span>There was the person who sent ten different puns to friends, with the hope that at least one of the puns would make them laugh. No pun in ten did. <\/span>

<\/span>
<\/span>7. Squirtle, Charmander or Bulbasaur?<\/span>
This depends if we’re talking tactics or cuteness.<\/span>
I am rather a fan of my namesake. Squirtle is amazing, and probably the cutest, and the most useful of the unevolved forms, but lets face it…there’s something about Charizard that makes me want a Charmander….<\/span>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"author":13,"featured_media":1211,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-371","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/bimedia.org\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/371","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/bimedia.org\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/bimedia.org\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bimedia.org\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/13"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bimedia.org\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=371"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/bimedia.org\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/371\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bimedia.org\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1211"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/bimedia.org\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=371"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bimedia.org\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=371"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bimedia.org\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=371"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}