{"id":8602,"date":"2019-11-04T16:41:09","date_gmt":"2019-11-04T16:41:09","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/bisofcolour.home.blog\/?p=500"},"modified":"2019-11-04T16:41:09","modified_gmt":"2019-11-04T16:41:09","slug":"an-open-letter-to-white-middle-class-bicon-attendees","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/bimedia.org\/blogs\/2019\/11\/an-open-letter-to-white-middle-class-bicon-attendees\/","title":{"rendered":"An open letter to White Middle class BiCon attendees"},"content":{"rendered":"
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An open letter to whiteandmiddle class BIcon* attendees.\u2028\u2028* <\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Share wildly, and do not tag, but do credit me: Nila K<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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*and this means if you go regularly now. But it also means if you don\u2019t go any more because you got to stay for long enough to develop your own community, network, friends, lovers. This is a thing that space is magically good at.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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but only for the Right Sort.\u2028\u2028<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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As far as I\u2019m aware none of us Bi+\/Pan BIPoC have ever suggested you boycott the event.\u2028\u2028I mean, speaking personally, a lot of that is how laughably unlikely it is that me suggesting this would lead to anything except more traumatising grief. The idea that those of you who get to access this space and build networks that sustain you during the year might consider stepping back = nonsensical.\u2028\u2028<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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But most of it with me and many others – is that we don\u2019t <\/strong>want you to be more marginalised than you are. As fellow (but not peer) bi people, we know what it is to be shat on everywhere else.\u2028\u2028Thing is, we know what it is to have that compounded by finding the one place that purports to support you\u2026 and to have that shit on you in its turn.\u2028\u2028<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Coz, despite what multiple people have said about and to me: I didn\u2019t \u2018choose\u2019 to stop coming.\u2028\u2028I was forced out by virulent and violent classist racism.\u2028\u2028It was a choice between my whole social, emotional, professional, activist world \u2026 and myself.\u2028\u2028And thank fuck that I chose myself.\u2028\u2028But no one should have to make that \u2018choice\u2019.\u2028\u2028<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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And yet we still don\u2019t talk to you about this, and you still keep choose to support a horrifically exclusionary space and calling it community, family and (LOOL) radical. \u2028\u2028<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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So, think on that when you deal with us, eh?<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

An open letter to whiteandmiddle class BIcon* attendees.

*   Share wildly, and do not tag, but do credit me: Nila K   ***   *and this means if you go regularly now. But it also means if you don’t go any more because you got to stay for long enough to develop your own community, … Continue reading An open letter to White Middle class BiCon attendees<\/span> →<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":53,"featured_media":1211,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[59,9,803,133,477,63,304,757,804,461,455,166,279],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-8602","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-bicon","category-bisexual","category-bisexual-event","category-bisexuality","category-classism","category-lgbt","category-lgbtq","category-marginalised","category-marginalized","category-people-of-colour","category-qtipoc","category-queer","category-racism"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/bimedia.org\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8602","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/bimedia.org\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/bimedia.org\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bimedia.org\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/53"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bimedia.org\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=8602"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/bimedia.org\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8602\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":8603,"href":"https:\/\/bimedia.org\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8602\/revisions\/8603"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bimedia.org\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1211"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/bimedia.org\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=8602"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bimedia.org\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=8602"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bimedia.org\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=8602"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}