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I have basically a 99% hard limit re ‘no white people as lovers\/play partners\/fuckbuddies.<\/p>\nA guest post from N. Gupta<\/p>\n
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I have basically a 99% hard limit re ‘no white people as lovers\/play partners\/fuckbuddies.<\/p>\n
Because I am done showing\/sharing my skin and body with people who have no clue what their white skin means.<\/p>\n
And no investment in learning *to the level that I need for any encounter to be remotely good\/pleaseuable for me*<\/p>\n
if im ever gonna have that intimacy again<\/p>\n
and tbh it feels unlikely and I go back and forth on how i feel about that<\/p>\n
THEN :
i am prirotising black and brown bodies like AND unlike mine:<\/p>\n
– trans, gender non conforming, bi, crip, mad, working\/mixed class, immigrant bodies, goddess\/magic\/witchy bodies.<\/p>\n
Bodies that contain multitudes and borders.<\/p>\n
Bodies that get stopped and searched at borders and on the street.<\/p>\n
***<\/p>\n
Me, reading this back. OH. Right. Yes!<\/p>\n
with endless thanks to\u00a0Rhizome Syndrigast Coelacanth Flourishing<\/a>\u00a0whose writing and making and thinking and feeling and re-imagining have been so inmportant to me in last couple years\u00a0 It’s a 99% limit because someone being BIPoC doesn’t guarantee a connection. or that they won’t be shit to me, or me to them.<\/p>\n I donn’t get to ‘disappear’ into that world coz it’s not magically free of transphobic, biphobic, ableist, classist, sanist, capitalist, racist, liberal, faily etc bulllshit.<\/p>\n And if someone is qtibpoc but is that more comfortable hanging on to instead of challenging that stuff, our skin doesn’t make us kin.<\/p>\n And coz if you wanna be my lover .. you literally have to come round and deali with my messy house. Coz I’m largely housebound these days.<\/p>\n It’s a 99% limit because there are *and always have been* white working class people in my chosen fam. (and some of their families pretty expolicity chose\/’adopted me)<\/p>\n We share and connect on many of these lines in ways.<\/p>\n And coz I have rarely found absolutism to be a useful\/positive force\/ i need pluralism and options.<\/p>\n So yeah<\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" A guest post from N. Gupta I have basically a 99% hard limit re ‘no white people as lovers\/play partners\/fuckbuddies. Because I am done showing\/sharing my skin and body with people who have no clue what their white skin means. And no investment in learning *to the level that I need for any encounter … Continue reading Connections with my skin – A Guest Post<\/span> →<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":53,"featured_media":1211,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[9,133,192,805,806,807,808,63,809,461,171,455,166,279,810,811,812,169],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-8604","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-bisexual","category-bisexuality","category-bisexuals","category-buds","category-emotional-violence","category-fuck-buddies","category-kink","category-lgbt","category-lovers","category-people-of-colour","category-poc","category-qtipoc","category-queer","category-racism","category-rainbow-racism","category-risk-aware-consensual-kink","category-sexual-partners","category-trans"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/bimedia.org\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8604","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/bimedia.org\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/bimedia.org\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bimedia.org\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/53"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bimedia.org\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=8604"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/bimedia.org\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8604\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":8605,"href":"https:\/\/bimedia.org\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8604\/revisions\/8605"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bimedia.org\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1211"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/bimedia.org\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=8604"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bimedia.org\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=8604"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bimedia.org\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=8604"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}![\"\"](\"https:\/\/static.xx.fbcdn.net\/images\/emoji.php\/v9\/ted\/2\/16\/2764.png?_nc_eui2=AeFcj0nX0irr31XZ_8CvAh3typ2kdv0dlhTy7vsM5Kx-Q_PtyGe2BLGWb4WyRIUEybr7asqHn6sQS50EQ8wHYgsn354o8aE6WFOw-OWmN0Nf2g\")
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<\/span><\/span>\u00a0Love and solidarty to u, mate xx<\/p>\n