Reposted from my personal blog I was born in 1969, just as the UK switched from Imperial to the Metric system. One half of my old family were stuck with inches, yards and shillings. The other half of my family used millimetres and kilograms. I was stuck exactly in the middle. I learned how … Continue reading Whose Black Lives Matter?→
*Fat person exists*Bigot: “Get some exercise, fatso!:*Fat person exercises because it’s fun*Bigot: “No, not like that. You’re still a lardass who stuffs their face!”*Fat person eats salad because they enjoy it*Bigot: “Quit pretending, fattie. Everyone...
The myth that black men love fat women needs to get in a volcano
Is it easy Being black and fat? Do you enjoy random men telling you “I’d hit that!” Are you attracted to those who insult you on the street? Or at family gatherings When relatives you meet Tell you nobody wants you when you’re fat. But oh, black guys are supposed to love that!
Is it easy when you’re not thin And black, like how do you even fit in? Folks look away when I catch their eye And don’t get me started when they find out I’m bi. I’m not butch, and I hate the styles of the 1950’s So I have to learn to dress a little differently. But it’s not easy, not easy at all. You should hear the names I get called! I’m not hourglass shaped or light-skinned at that. My belly has rolls and I am fat!
So no, your racist ideas don’t help me one bit. When you think I have it easier, you perpetuate a myth. Fat liberation is blindingly pale; Your racial oppression keeps me down on the scale. The lines on my skin aren’t just stretch marks, But self inflicted pain I cannot get past.
So sure, say it’s easy being black and fat. Look the other other way as I deal with this crap. And if liberation for fat folks Don’t include queers of colour at the heart of it, Then we’ll done, sister: Your movement’s full of shit!
Back when I was a closeted bisexual, I’d secretly look at newspapers and magazines like Loot, Pink Paper and Time Out.Most of these publications had lots of Personals in their classified section.I found it all quite disheartening to read row upon row of text, where each one would say, “No bisexuals” or “No butches.” It was rare to see, “No blacks” but the wording of most ads spelled it out in other ways.I think the butch excluding confused me the most, but hey, femmes can be bigots too, I guess.Now that things have moved online for the most part, I still see wording like this.The only exception to this situation is on OK Cupid, where if you put that you’re a bisexual woman on your profile, zillions of men will flood your mailbox (with what, I don’t even want to know…)
Photo: J. Applebee, The Bisexual Stall at London Pride 2010
