With a family as large and as complicated as mine, I’ve always known that statistically I cannot be the only one who isn’t heterosexual. However growing up in a rural area in a Christian, farming family is a very effective way to make you feel like you are. Nothing LGBT was ever mentioned. Nothing queer … Continue reading Rainbow Sheep →

The burden and anxiety of the decision of whether to come out to someone or not is taken away from you when they die.  My mum killed herself when I was 16 before I told her I was bisexual. One thing I’ve noticed is that all the resources about coming out never touch upon bereavement … Continue reading Bereavements & Coming Out →

A few things have happened lately that got me thinking about family, friends and the benefits of social networks and connections. I was visiting a friend in London and was struck by just how much support she gets from her wide circle of family and friends. She has parents, siblings, aunties, uncles and cousins from … Continue reading Losing Family, Gaining So Much More →

‘Are you sure you’re not gay?’ is a question I have been asked at some point by every single straight man I’ve been in a relationship with. When it happened I never questioned it. I never called them out on it. I wish now I’d had the confidence to do so. Instead I just kept quiet … Continue reading Are you sure you’re not gay? →