callistomist:

I decided to create a masterpost that would help…

callistomist: I decided to create a masterpost that would help…



callistomist:

I decided to create a masterpost that would help you with what you are struggling with. Hopefully any of the links below will help you!

Reminder; You’re going to be okay. What you are going through will pass, just remember to breathe. 

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Distractions;

Here are some distractions to help keep your mind occupied so you aren’t too focused on your thoughts. 

Sleep issues; 

 

Uncomfortable with silence; 

Anxiety; 


Sad, angry and depressed/depression; 


Isolation and loneliness; 

 

Self-harm;


Addiction; 

 

Eating disorders; 

 

Dealing with self-hatred;  

 

Suicidal; 

 

Schizophrenia;


OCD;


Borderline personality disorder; 

Abuse; 

 

Bullying;

 

Loss and grief; 

(Other loss and grief)

 

Getting help; 


Things you need to remember; 

  • - Don’t stress about being fixed because you’re not broken.
  • -Remember to remind yourself of your accomplishments. Tell yourself that you’re proud of yourself, even if you’re not. 
  • - This is temporary. You won’t always feel like this. 
  • -You are not alone. 
  • -You are enough. 
  • -You are important. 
  • -You are worth it. 
  • -You are strong. 
  • -You are not a failure, 
  • -Good people exist. 
  • -Reaching out shows strength. 
  • -Breathe. 
  • -Don’t listen to the thoughts that are not helping you. 
  • -Give yourself credit. 
  • -Don’t be ashamed of your emotions, for the good or bad ones. 
  • -Treat yourself the same way as you would treat a good friend. 
  • -Focus on the things you can change. 
  • -Let go of toxic people. 
  • -You don’t need to hide, you’re allowed to feel the way you do. 
  • -Try not to beat yourself up. 
  • -Something is always happening, you don’t want to miss out on what’s going to happen next. 
  • -You are not a bother.
  • -Your existence is more than your appearance. 
  • -You are smart. 
  • -You are loved. 
  • -You are wanted. 
  • -You are needed. 
  • -Better days are coming. 
  • -Just because your past is dark, doesn’t mean your future isn’t bright. 
  • -You have more potential than you think. 
  • - Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth.


Please remember to look after yourself and know that you are more than worth it and you deserve to be happy. Keep smiling butterflies x

 
skibbley 2015-10-19 11:27:11

skibbley 2015-10-19 11:27:11

Provided the crowdfunding works there's going to be a new bisexual book for UK: Purple Prose.I helped curate the Non-monogamies chapter.Please support.This will be the first non-academic UK bi book for many years. comments
skibbley 2015-10-19 11:27:11

skibbley 2015-10-19 11:27:11

Provided the crowdfunding works there's going to be a new bisexual book for UK: Purple Prose.I helped curate the Non-monogamies chapter.Please support.This will be the first non-academic UK bi book for many years. comments
OctoCon – The Irish Sci-Fi convention (or activism never has a…

OctoCon – The Irish Sci-Fi convention (or activism never has a…











OctoCon - The Irish Sci-Fi convention (or activism never has a day off)


In last week’s episode of Jacq goes to a Sci-Fi convention…

I’ve been to 3 conventions prior to OctoCon.  Dragon Con was awful. Nine Worlds was pretty bad.  EasterCon (Dysprosium) was good.  I was completely ignored at DragonCon - as in I’d talk to someone & they’d look at me with a blank stare.  A panelist called me a Troll at Nine Worlds when I spoke up about cultural appropration.  So far, so bad.

Dysprosium had more than its fair share of racist attendees - from the man proudly wearing a Gollywog badge, to an attendee demanding I explain to him & his mates how to end racism.  The good thing about Dysprosium was the organisers were brilliant when I spoke to them about these problems.  They got on with sorting out these issues quickly, & reassured me that I was being listened to.  It is something I really appreciated.  I shouldn’t have to face these kind of problems at any event, but they kept on happening.  I didn’t have very high hopes for OctoCon.  But in the end, it was fantastic!

I took part in 5 panels, including 4 that were decidely LGBT+ and sex positive.  Where most conventions will have a single diversity panel (or in the case of Nine     Worlds, a track), OctoCon had diversity woven into every single session.  I didn’t only hear about or from People of Colour in the Race & Sci-Fi type sessions, but in the ones on Timetravel, in Genderqueerness and inErotica in fiction too.  This is no small thing for me; having been used to being shoved in a ‘ghetto’ of ethnicity at events.  The fact that there weren’t even that many People of Colour in attendance didn’t alter the fact that I felt listened to at OctoCon.  I felt respected.  I had loads of fun and learned new things about the worlds of gaming, science fiction and fantasy.  And with the added bonus of a lot of seriously HOT folks in attendance, what more could I ask for?

Go to OctoCon.  http://2015.octocon.com  You know it makes sense.

And support the bid for Dublin 2019 too! http://dublin2019.com 


Better than a Quinn Martin production.

Could you lead BiTopia?

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Our October bi news

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It’s October, so that means in the U.K it’s Black History Month….

It’s October, so that means in the U.K it’s Black History Month….



It’s October, so that means in the U.K it’s Black History Month.  http://www.blackhistorymonth.org.uk

Have a look at LGBT History website, and spot all the bi-erasue on it: http://www.lgbthistorymonth.org.uk/history/blackhistory.htm

I’m quite disappointed by the lack of LGBT+ content this month, but there are a few queer things happening. 

LGBT Foundation in Manchester are celebrating http://lgbt.foundation/bhm

And you can always read about the experiences of Bisexual people of colour here: https://bisexualresearch.files.wordpress.com/2015/06/bis-of-colour-survey-report.pdf

What makes me particularly sad is that due to illness & clashes, there won’t be a Bi’s of Colour meetup this month.  In Black History Month queer people are often ignored.  In LGBT History Month, Black people are often ignored.  LGBT People of Colour deserve better than this.  Our lives matter too.

PS- Something I left off the illustration, but is important to know: Black Lives Matter OUTSIDE of United States too!