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Visiting Nottingham University by bus for BiCon
Practical info about buses, gathered by me.
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De Montfort makes eyes at Dave
De Montfort University* has got in a kerfuffle after awarding its highest honour to David Cameron in recognition of the importance of same-sex marriage and its impact in social progress.There's a petition here which has that rare quality of being an on...
#StillBisexual video
I had loads of fun making this video. Paring down the story to short sentences that fit into two minutes whilst trying to maybe be entertaining was a challenge, but I'm just glad I have a colourful collection of sharpies!
This is part of a campaign to address the issue that people often see bisexuals as 'now' gay or straight once they enter into a committed relationship, rather than being still bisexual, as the title suggests. To find out more visit stillbisexual.com; there are loads of wonderful stories on there; and if you're inspired to make your own video, there is a clear instructions page.
Here's the script of my video, but I recommend watching it first.
· I fell in love with a boy at drama group in 2004.
I was 12. It was unrequited. I was heartbroken.
· The first guy to ask me out asked me that same year.
We went to the cinema with his mum. He didn’t kiss me :(
· I met another boy at a fancy dress party age 13.
He was Danny from Grease, I was Pocahontas. He was soooo cute.
We went to the cinema, alone. He didn’t kiss me either :(
· I fell in love with one of my friends at my girls-only school in 2006, age 14.
We went to the cinema, alone, and I was so happy just to spend time with her.
We made out in the back row :D
She was my first kiss. When she dumped me, I was heartbroken.
I let my friend kiss me to cheer me up, he was very sweet.
I came out as bi to a new group of friends at a new school age 16.
They were totally cool with it.
·A boy asked me out, we had fun, we even went on a canal holiday.
He dumped me; God told him to.
·I asked a girl out and she said “I can’t think of a reason not to.”
·After her, a boy in my friendship group and I had a fling but no one understood why.
I came out as bi to my parents when I was 18.
I thought my mother had a problem with it for years.
I was wrong :)
·A boy in first year at uni almost, but then didn’t, want me.
I had fun with some of my friends who were boys. I was 20.
·I went to a party, met a girl, we got our faces painted.
In the morning, there was paint everywhere.
Had another one night stand, with a boy. We had fun. We never spoke again.
·Had a failed first date with a boy from a party.
·In 2015, I went to the aquarium with the boy from the drama group.
That went well :D
I think we are such a cute couple.
I am #StillBisexual.
I have been lucky. Others haven’t.
Help me stop the suffering. Spread the word. We as #StillBisexual.
My sexuality as a hobby
Mostly, I work. That is what spend most of my time doing. I'm a freelance stage manager, and each job is generally 3-8 weeks long, and there is a basic schedule that productions follow. This means my hours generally go in a cycle that looks like this:R...
Are you a bisexual/pansexual/fluid Person of Colour?Would you…
Are you a bisexual/pansexual/fluid Person of Colour?
Would you like to contribute your thoughts and experiences to an ongoing history project?
If the answer is YES to both, read further.
My name is Jacq, and I am looking for people to interview for my project. I am based in London, but I am happy to travel to meet you. I can also interview by email or Face Time.
I am particularly interested in the views of bisexuals/pansexuals/fluid people of colour who are South Asian, those who live in rural areas and those who identify as older, as these are the groups which are underrepresented in the study.
I have already written a report on a Bi’s of Colour survey, which is free to read on the Bi’s of Colour site.
If you’re interested, or if you just want to know more, please contact me at bis.of.colour@gmail.com
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My speech at Leeds Pride
I had the delight of being among the speakers on the main stage at Leeds Pride yesterday. Here's what I had to say to the crowd:
"Hello Leeds! Are you having a good Pride?
"My first Pride was in London in 1993, and in those days it was called Lesbian and Gay Pride. I thought: I'm not a lesbian, I'm not gay, I'm bisexual and genderqueer, am I wanted and included in this? I went along and hoped bisexual would be "gay enough". I didn't know it back then but Pride was invented by a bisexual woman, Brenda Howard, so if you're still in any doubt about the bisexuals being here - at this party, we're definitely on the guest list.
"I'm delighted to be here on behalf of Leeds Bi Group, which celebrates its first birthday this month having been formed at the national bisexual festival BiCon a year ago. If you're bi and in or around Leeds join us at Mesmac, 7pm the second Wednesday of every month. They say bisexuals want to have their cake and eat it, which is a strange slur, but if you want to bring us cake we're good with that.
"Pride can be an exhilarating event, and I remember the tears I cried at my first one just being surrounded by so many other queer people for the first time. But it's just one day.
"The rest of the year there are groups all across the country like Leeds Bi Group making a space where it's OK to be bisexual - in a world that still wants us to fit a simple box of gay or straight.
"And we sadly need it. Half of gay and lesbian people think they can't be out about their sexuality at work. Bi women are only half as likely as lesbians to feel they can be out at work. For Bi men that falls to just one in eight.
"We may have nearly-equal marriage but in mental health, in experience of violence and more, we have so much still to do. Bisexual, transgender, lesbian or gay, we still die younger than our heterosexual cisgender friends, and that has to change.
"But that's the fight for tomorrow and the rest of the year. Be proud and have a wonderful Pride today."
Stage 2* of the Bi’s of Colour History Project is…
Stage 2* of the Bi’s of Colour History Project is underway. I aim to interview bisexual people of colour on their lives and on the common themes that arose in the Bi’s of Colour survey report. I also want to include photographs of the interviewees, alongside ephemera relating to bi/pan/fluid people of colour.
I am based in London, but I am able to travel to carry out interviews in the following places: Brighton, Manchester, Nottingham, Glasgow, Edinburgh, Bristol, Cardiff, Dublin and Belfast. For interviewees outside of these cities, I can email a list of questions.
This is where your help is needed. I’ve set up a Go Fund Me page where you can donate for this campaign: http://www.gofundme.com/bochistory
Individuals: I know money is tight for all of us, but if you can donate even a small amount, it will help this campaign.
LGBTIQA organisations, you can help me to complete this work. If you’ve read the Bi’s of Colour Report, you will know how vital this is. Your assistance will be added to the Stage 3 exhibition/display. You’ll get publicity for supporting a very marginalised group of people.
Your donations will help to pay for travel, and to reimburse participants for their time. I need to pay for photography and printing. I cannot do this without your help. There is currently nothing like this out there. It doesn’t have to be like that.
If anyone wants to contact me to discuss how to get involved with this project, email me at bis.of.colour@gmail.com
*Stages
Stage 1: Bi’s of Colour survey and report
Stage 2: Oral history interviews
Stage 3: Travelling exhibition/display of Bi’s of Colour History
Stage 4: A published book of the project!
Bi Visibility Day 2015 Thunderclap
http://www.bivisibilityday.com/tweet/Two visibility-boosting tweets to sign up to for September 23rd, whatever you call it - Bi Visibility Day / International Celebrate Bisexuality Day / Bi Pride / I’m Gonna Be Wearing Pink Purple And Blue Day
Click here to auto-tweet in morning in the UK (9:30AM BST) and here to auto-tweet in the morning in the US (11:00AM CDT - I'm doing both!).
I generally only have time for a Facebook/Twitter spree, which friends tell me is quite positive action - flood your feed with stuff and even with FB's algorithms, something gets through to everyone. As long as it's not in your face or angsty, no one wants that in quantity on a day of celebration. I try and paint my nails, wear my "Keep Calm It's A Bisexual" tee shirt, rainbow pin on my coat, and just find ways to mention it in conversation whether at work on socialising.
bivisibilityday: http://www.bivisibilityday.com/tweet/Two…
http://www.bivisibilityday.com/tweet/
Two visibility-boosting tweets to sign up to for September 23rd, whatever you call it - Bi Visibility Day / International Celebrate Bisexuality Day / Bi Pride / I’m Gonna Be Wearing Pink Purple And Blue Day
I’m Married, Should I Tell People I’m Bisexual?
That is totally up to you. Some people feel that their sexual orientation is an important part of their identity that they want to share with others. Some might feel it is a private thing, and they don't want to share it outside their marriage. For exa...
