Stonewall’s historic consultation with the bi…

Stonewall’s historic consultation with the bi…



Stonewall’s historic consultation with the bi communities


I’ve been pissed off with Stonewall for decades.  Bi erasure and biphobia hurts twice as much when it comes from a supposedly lesbian, gay and bisexual organisation.  I felt like there was no accountability, that the B in LGB (T) was just a letter and not the reality of varied communities of bisexual people.  I wasn’t expecting much of the Bi Consultation except a lot of denial and frustration.  So I was glad when the day began with meeting other bi activists in a coffee shop in Pimlico, who were full of ideas.

The Etc venue had gender neutral toilets, a variety of food and drink for those who had allergies, and the staff were friendly.

Once inside, I took a discreet look around the packed boardroom: I counted over thirty people present, but only two other bisexuals of colour.  I was disappointed that there weren’t more; that events like these either weren’t going after LGBT people of colour, or it was off-putting to black and minority ethnic people.  Another issue that affects me personally, was that whenever anyone mentioned the word, “black,” everyone at my table would suddenly turn to me.  That behaviour continued throughout the day until the afternoon when I asked them all to stop.  I don’t represent all black and minority ethnic bisexuals.  I just help run Bi’s of Colour, which was started due to racism present in bisexual spaces.

After the facilitator, Caroline set out some ground rules, Ruth Hunt gave an apology for how bisexuals were treated by Stonewall in the past.  It didn’t feel like empty words, but that the charity wanted to move forward with positive intent.  We were also told some of Stonewalls early history, which seemed to involve getting lots of gay, cis men to pay attention to lesbians who were being discriminated against.  I started to feel irritated; this kind of behaviour was going on in the present day when it came to bisexuals.  A quick look at Stonewalls LGBT history page sees a complete absence of bisexual recognition (Fritz Klein’s grid is mentioned, but not the fact that he was bi)

There was a brief flurry of questions and answers.  I was impressed that Ruth Hunt was willing to field these professionally and with good nature.  One question: Stonewall has been deliberately biphobic in the past, resulted in a statement that Stonewall was not institutionally biphobic.  I began to feel uncomfortable once more; as one participant told me later, “Society is institutionally biphobic.”  Part of this kind of behaviour is that it is very hard to see from the inside; bisexuals are probably the best people to gauge whether something is biphobic or not.  This statement was clarified later, but I still felt on edge.

Ruth Hunt presented several points that Stonewall thought were priorities for bisexual people:
Health, Asylum and Immigration, Employment, Biphobia within the lesbian and gay community, and Bi Visibility.  The attendees added the following: Homelessness and housing, Race, Faith, Ageing, Intersections, Parenting, Rural Bi’s
(These are incomplete lists)

We split into groups to discuss these points, and to generate ways that Stonewall could address them.  For the first time in the day, I felt really good; that I was being listened to, and Stonewall was taking notice.  The discussions continued after lunch, and then each group fed back to the room.  It was great hearing so many ideas for moving forward that would be aimed at bisexuals.  These discussion points resulted in a declaration that Stonewall may not be able to deliver everything we wanted, but our priorities would be taken seriously.  Ruth gave us a list of proposals that would be taken forward from the day.  Two of the proposals that really made me smile was that there would be a named person in Stonewall responsible for bi people, and there would be a campaign to fight biphobia from lesbian and gay communities

I came away from the event feeling emotionally wiped out.  I may have behaved as if I didn’t really care about what happened, but the sense of hope I had as I left was a surprise for me; after being a part of the bisexual community, starving for attention, a feast was finally within my sights!

Bi History Discussion and Social SpaceAs part of LGBT History…

Bi History Discussion and Social SpaceAs part of LGBT History…



Bi History Discussion and Social Space

As part of LGBT History month, there will be an informal gathering to talk about UK bisexual history, share memories and generally socialise. Free entry, but donations welcome, tea and biscuits provided.

Date and time: Weds 18th February, 7pm - 10pm

Organisers: Katy and Jacq

Venue:
Essex Church (Unitarian),
112 Palace Gardens Terrace
Notting Hill Gate
London W8 4RT

It’s about five minutes’ walk from Notting Hill Gate tube, map here: https://goo.gl/maps/qo4iX

BiTalkia, Monday 23 Feb 2015: details

BiTalkia, Monday 23 Feb 2015: details

Date Monday 23 February 2015. Start time Doors open 7pm, discussion 7.30 till 8.30, chatting time afterwards. Then washing-up-cups, and out of the room by 10pm. Theme “Fitting & misfitting in the bi community”. Format The hour of discussion will be fairly highly structured, for equal shares of talking time. Mostly in small groups. Couple […]
Bisexual women in the UK have worse mental health than lesbians

Bisexual women in the UK have worse mental health than lesbians



Bugged by “friends” who say that it is so much easier to be bi than lesbian? Well point them in the direction of this new research, which comes from the London School of Hygiene and Tropical Medicine (LSHTM).

Sexual health researchers from LSHTM analysed the responses to the 2007 Stonewall UK Women's Health Survey from 5,706 bisexual and lesbian women. Respondents were all living in the UK and aged 14 or over. Of these, 937 were bi-identified.

The research showed that bi women were far more likely to experience poor mental health than lesbians. Lesbians, in turn, have worse mental health than do heterosexual women.

This quoted information is straight from the press release.

Bisexual women are more likely to experience poor mental health and mental distress than lesbians, according to new research published in the Journal of Public Health.


Bisexual women were 64% more likely to report an eating problem and 37% more likely to have deliberately self-harmed than lesbians. They were also 26% more likely to have felt depressed and 20% more likely to have suffered from anxiety in the previous year than lesbians.

The study found bisexual women were less likely to be ‘out’ to friends, family and work colleagues and also less likely to be in a relationship. According to the results, bisexual women were less likely to experience sexuality-related discrimination from work, healthcare services, education and family than lesbians, but more likely to experience discrimination from friends.

Study senior author Dr Ford Hickson, at the London School of Hygiene & Tropical Medicine, said: “Bisexual people are at particular risk of invisibility and marginalisation from both gay/lesbian communities and mainstream society. Although bisexual women in our study reported experiencing less sexuality-based discrimination than lesbians, this did not benefit their mental health. Mental health services should be aware of both the differences and the similarities in bisexual and lesbian women's mental health care needs, and tailor the services they provide accordingly.”

The authors also found that older bisexual women had more suicidal thoughts than younger bisexual women.

I strongly recommend reading this paper in its entirety – there is some academic jargon and statistics but it is comparatively easy to read; the information in it is both saddening and important.

A few questions and speculations


The authors report that things have changed since a previous report of 2000-2002, when bi women were not reported as having a greater prevalence of psychological distress than were lesbians. They suggest that greater public awareness and acceptance, and legal changes, have meant that lesbian relationships are more tolerated. These changes have not had the same beneficial impact on bi women.

But what has changed since 2007, when this research was carried out? Social media, which was in its infancy in 2007, has – I think – had a definite impact on the invisibility and erasure that is known to have a negative impact on bi people. Social media has the potential to connect people to the great benefit of all. It can also enable bullying and can cause even worse stress to people who are feeling vulnerable.

These are “bi-identified” women. What about women who are sexually/emotionally bi but for whom identity as such is not important. Or, indeed, who identify as pansexual or queer?

To what extent and in which ways would these findings be similar for bi/gay men?

In what ways do other oppressions – race and class, for instance – have an impact on bi women’s “mental distress”? Or the intersection of trans* and bi identities.

To what extent and in which ways would these findings be similar for bi/gay men?

I’d love to know how individuals feel about these issues in their own lives.

Bisexuality, age and mental health

So does this differ with age or generation – and if so, how and why? The authors do say that “older bisexual women had more suicidal thoughts than younger bisexual women” which is a sorry situation indeed. In the UK population at large, incidences of suicidal thoughts go down with age.

Why might this be?

Invisibility and marginalisation is surely at least part of it. If this increased mental distress is true for bi women as a whole, how much more true is this for older bi women. For sexual minority people in general, not being out, being invisible, hiding important parts of yourself – these are all known to have a negative impact on mental health.


Study lead author Lisa Colledge quite rightly says: “Homophobic prejudice is now widely and rightly condemned; specific stigma around bisexuality needs to be similarly confronted.”

Biphobia still clearly exists from both mainstream and queer communities, still has an impact on how women see themselves.


As the report says, “If felt and internalized stigma were commoner among bisexual than lesbian respondents, this may help explain the bisexuals’ greater mental health distress.”


Older bi people/women – as this blog as argued often – continue to be as invisible as they were 20 years ago. Bi people/women are far less visible than younger bi women, or younger bi people as a whole. When they are visible, they are viewed with contempt or bafflement. When they are invisible, it is because they don’t exist. A truly vicious circle, that surely helps no one.

I also think it is likely that growing up at a time when bisexuality was even more unacceptable, when there was even less of a bi community, and even less visibility, may have a profound and long-lasting psychological impact on some women. For those who came out later in life, they may find dating and finding new friends and partners who accept them more difficult than younger women. Those are just a few reasons, most of which the report recognises.


But this is NOT inevitable.

A few years ago, I wrote a draft post for this site on “How to be a happy bisexual” which I never finished because I was concerned it was too light, too perky. I think I will revisit it.

To read the original research, click here.

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